Even if you love the person abusing you, you need to tell someone that you are being sexually abused so that:
You can be safe from being abused any more.
You have a grownup to talk to. That grownup can help you to really understand that what happened was not your fault.
Adults can stop the person who sexually abused you from harming any other kids.
And…maybe the person who molested you can get help too!
Many, many teenagers and adults who were sexually abused have asked me to pass along messages to kids who are being sexually abused now. Here are some of their messages:
“For kids who have been sexually abused: it's not your fault. You must not keep it a secret no matter how long ago it happened. It won't go away by itself. Tell someone. It's a heavy burden to carry alone.”
“I wish I had been able to tell my family and friends earlier. If I had told someone right away, I could have gotten help. I wouldn’t have felt like no one could understand what I was going through, and I needed to know that I wasn’t alone.”
“You have to tell when what is happening is scaring or hurting you at all. If one person doesn't believe you, tell someone else. Keep telling until someone listens. I know it's painful to tell, but what you're living with is far worse.”
“Finally, I realized it wasn’t going to work to try to fix everything on my own. I decided it was time to take the burden off my shoulders.”
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